Surviving the Holiday Season, when you are Caring for Someone Living With Dementia

Christmas is often painted as a season of joy, celebration, and togetherness. But for many unpaid carers supporting someone living with dementia, the holidays can feel very different. Instead of glitter and excitement, December can bring stress, uncertainty, and a deep sense of emotional overwhelm.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Thousands of families face the same pressures every year — wanting to create a meaningful Christmas while also managing the challenges dementia can bring. The good news? With a little planning, realistic expectations, and a lot of self-kindness, it is possible to make the festive period calmer and more manageable.

Here are some gentle, practical tips to help you survive Christmas and maybe even find some moments of peace and connection along the way.

🎄 1. Keep Christmas Simple — and That’s Okay

It’s easy to feel pressured by what Christmas “should” look like. But your Christmas doesn’t need to match anyone else’s. Small, simple celebrations are often the most meaningful — for you and for your loved one.
Reduce commitments, scale back plans, and focus on what truly matters to your family.

🕯️ 2. Familiar Routines Bring Comfort

People living with dementia often feel more settled when the day follows a familiar rhythm. Try to keep mealtimes, activities, and rest periods roughly the same, even on Christmas Day.
Consistency reduces confusion and creates a calmer environment for everyone.

👨‍👩‍👧 3. Prepare Family and Friends Ahead of Time

If you’re spending time with others, gently explain any changes they might notice in your loved one.
Help them understand:

that large groups may be overwhelming that your loved one may repeat questions or become tired quickly that quiet spaces and shorter visits can help

Setting expectations early prevents awkward moments and makes gatherings more comfortable for all.

🎁 4. Choose Activities That Feel Manageable

From looking at old photos to listening to familiar Christmas songs, simple sensory activities can spark moments of connection.
You don’t need elaborate plans or a full schedule — small, meaningful interactions often bring the most joy.

❄️ 5. Make Space for Calm

Loud music, flashing lights, crowded rooms, these are all common triggers for someone living with dementia. Try to keep decorations gentle, noise levels low, and lighting calm.
A quiet corner or breakout space can be a lifesaver during family gatherings.

🤝 6. Ask for Help — You Deserve Support

Many carers feel they have to do everything themselves.
You don’t.

Whether it’s asking a family member to prepare a dish, arranging respite for a couple of hours, or simply sharing how you’re feeling — support makes a big difference.
Your wellbeing matters just as much as your loved one’s.

💛 7. Be Kind to Yourself

Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect.
You may feel tired, emotional, or pulled in many directions — and that’s completely normal.
Give yourself permission to do less, rest when you need to, and let go of expectations that create pressure rather than joy.

🌟 Final Thought

Christmas with dementia will look different — but different doesn’t mean worse. It means finding new ways to connect, creating gentle memories, and honouring what you and your loved one need most.

You don’t have to navigate this alone.
Lighthouse Dementia Support is here for you.

Written by:

Kate Haywood,

LDS